3 Ways to Start Showing Up
Still waiting for "expert enough"?
If you've ever stared at a blank post or held your breath during a meeting, afraid to say what you really think, you're not alone.
ADHD makes this worse.
You zigzag. You second-guess. You know too much and can't get it out in order.
So you stay quiet, thinking:
— "What if I get it wrong?"
— "I'm not expert enough yet."
— "People like me aren't taken seriously."
But this isn't about social media.
It's about visibility.
About the hope that one day people will get you, and the fear that they won't.
Here's the shift:
People don't trust you because you're polished.
They trust you because you show up—
— Even if it's messy.
— Even if you're mid-thought.
— Even if your idea comes out sideways.
You don't need to be an expert to be trusted
You don't have to feel ready.
Most of us wait for the right title. The right words.
The moment our voice sounds like we know what we're doing.
But that moment rarely comes, especially when your brain runs on chaos and curiosity.
Here's the truth:
❌ You don't have to feel ready to be visible.
✅ You just have to be present enough to try.
Stuck? Use these 3 pivots
You don't need a strategy.
You need a way in.
These 3 pivots give you low-pressure ways to start showing up—without needing to be "expert enough."
1️⃣ Story → what actually happened
Share something real you've lived. It doesn't need to be profound—just honest.
Start with:
"I used to believe…"
"No one talks about…"
"This moment changed everything…"
Why it works:
People trust lived experience more than perfect advice.
Try this:
Write 3 sentences about a moment that shifted your perspective. Post one. That's a story.
2️⃣ Insight → what finally clicked
Share a shift in how you see things. Not perfect. Just true.
Start with:
"Lately I've noticed…"
"What if the real issue is…"
"Here's the pattern I keep repeating…"
Why it works:
Insights invite people to reflect, not just react.
Try this:
Drop one honest observation in your notes. That's an insight.
3️⃣ Invitation → what you're wondering
Ask something real. Not to perform, just to connect.
Start with:
"Am I the only one who…"
"What would it look like if…"
"How do you handle it when…"
Why it works:
Invitations lower pressure and spark resonance.
Try this:
Ask a question you don't know the answer to. That's leadership.
You don't need all three.
You don't need to post them publicly.
You just need one of them to help you show up.
Confidence comes later
ADHD convinces you you're not ready.
You start believing you need:
— Credentials.
— Confidence in spades.
— Proof your voice is worth hearing.
But confidence doesn't come first.
It comes from doing.
Start with the clarity you already have.
Let it grow in public.
Because confidence?
That comes from presence, not perfection.
